Forbidden Narcissist Protocol
‍This is not advice. It is an exit protocol. First you map the cycle you’re in: idealize, devalue, discard, hoover. You stop arguing about stories and start running rules. Keep a dated fact log, use one communication channel, reply in a fixed window, and keep messages logistical only.You install boundary language that ends circular talks and is followed by action. If contact is required for work, family, or co-parenting, you switch to Limited Contact with written records. When it is safe and possible, you move to No Contact with a clean plan. Hoover attempts lose power because replies are prewritten or replaced with planned silence.A Safety Branch covers higher-risk situations first: device hygiene, copies of documents, witnesses, public handoffs, and preplanned exits. Recovery routines protect sleep, attention, and identity while your nervous system settles.Results are measurable within seven days: fewer contacts, shorter replies, fewer boundary breaks, less rumination, better sleep. You do not need a diagnosis to protect yourself. Run the protocol and take your life back.
You map the loop: idealize → devalue → discard → hoover. If the pattern fits, you run the protocol facts, boundaries, contact rules... no diagnosis required.
Yes. Use Limited Contact: one channel only, time-boxed replies, logistics only, written records. Hooks drop and interactions become predictable.
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Expect pushback. You switch to scripted lines, stop debates, act once, and document. If risk appears, follow the Safety Branch steps first.
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Most notice relief in seven days: fewer contacts, shorter replies, fewer boundary breaks, better sleep. Progress is tracked with simple metrics.
It’s a protocol, not tips: fact logs, boundary language, No/Low Contact playbooks, hoovering replies, digital perimeter, and a seven-day plan you can hold.
Yes. The protocol replaces loops with actions: fixed reply windows, one channel, fact logs, and a nightly ten-minute audit. Your brain gets off the hamster wheel because the rules make decisions for you.
No. You don’t diagnose, you map behavior. The protocol targets patterns like love-bombing, gaslighting, devaluation, and hoovering. If the pattern fits, you run the steps.
Yes. Use Limited Contact: one channel only, time-boxed replies, logistics only, and written records. It lowers hooks and keeps interactions verifiable.
No. It’s a practical protocol. You can combine it with professional care or legal support. When safety is a concern, follow the Safety Branch first.
Most readers feel relief within seven days: fewer contacts, shorter arguments, less rumination, and better sleep. Progress is tracked with simple metrics.